The Happy Sleeper: the science-backed guide to helping your baby get a good night’s sleep ― newborn to school age
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Warm, supportive parenting and a full night of independent sleep are not mutually exclusive'we're going to show you how they work together naturally and seamlessly.
So now that we know the urgency of good sleep and elements you need to get it, let's look at the Happy Sleeper approach to getting there! an 18-month-old who only naps in a stroller, or a child refusing to fall asleep unless Mom or Dad snuggles up too. Written in a user-friendly and practical way - you'll keep going back to it at every age and stage of your child's sleep. This long book can be summed up by saying that the authors recommend you leave your infant crying in their crib for as long as it takes. I'm mostly just posting this to say that you are not a monster if you need to sleep train your baby (conversely - if you are getting decent sleep while bedsharing, this isn't an indictment of your method - I loved bedsharing, until it stopped working for us).
I've also picked up some really useful tips on setting up a pro-sleep room, the amount of sleep my little guy needs, and appropriate nap schedules. It's been bogged down in old-school notions like 'training' and misunderstandings of basic concepts like attachment. Insufficient sleep also raises the risk of hypertension and can affect the immune system, which may make kids more likely to get sick. This seems to have worked (fingers crossed) and we haven't had any throwing incidents for a few nights. Imagine your child was capable of walking, but you still carried her everywhere instead of letting her practice this new skill!
During these early months, the 0-4 month class focuses on strategies to help you gradually step back, a little at a time, so your baby can have space to practice her emerging, self-soothing abilities. You'll discover how you can nurture emotional understanding between you and your child while at the same time implementing behavioral strategies that ensure they get the sleep they need. Problems can arise when parents (with the best of intentions) overhelp or helicopter parent at night, overshadowing their babys biological ability to sleep well. Solid information on children's brain development and physiology supports a clear and systematic 'attunement' philosophy that strikes a happy balance between 'cry it out' and 'overhelping. Even when she was tiny and I was home and we had zero schedule my brain suddenly turned into this nap calculating machine - how long has she been awake?In this class, we teach you the gentle and effective strategies -- proven through our work with thousands of families over the years -- to help parents get their 2-6 year old kids back to sleeping through the night. She was fighting all our attempts to put her to bed, but once in bed and not fully asleep, she would cry. The authors never took that “you must do it this way or you will doom your child” attitude that I remember from other sleep books. As easy as it is to disrupt sleep and create unhealthy sleep habits, it's achievable and often quick to get back on the right track.