A Father's Story
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If it is sensationalism (like so many other books about serial murder), then he certainly has a bizarre method for doing so; if it is a clarification of facts, then it is incomplete and meandering; if it is an apology, it is sincere but just totally weary from years of apology. In A Father's Story, Lionel Dahmer delves into the chilling narrative of raising his son, Jeffrey Dahmer, who would later become one of America's most notorious serial killers. The lies brought out by this book are great for psychology and analyzing, but the book left me with an unpleasant feeling of disgust and slime.
But, looking at the world around us, it is important to understand, or even try to understand what lies beneath all this. Between long, rambling barely-coherent attempts to place his son's crimes into the context of his own failings as a person (Not a revelation goes by without an accompanying "Perhaps I had been naive. Instead of scrolling through your social media news feed, this is a much better way to spend your spare time in my opinion.She distanced herself from Jeffrey from his beginning as a baby by not nursing him, to the end of her mothering of him at age eighteen by abandoning him to live alone in their home.
REVIEW IS LONG AND INTENDED ONLY FOR THOSE WHO ARE DEEPLY INTERESTED IN READING THE BOOK, NOT FOR CASUALTIES. On July 23, 1991, Milwaukee chemist Lionel Dahmer discovered - along with the rest of the world - that his son Jeffrey was a murderer who, over a period of many years, had carried out some of the most ghastly crimes ever committed in the United States.
When he stood trial in the early 1990’s I was fairly young, and I remember equating him with Poe’s “Tell-Tale Heart”… in that, a murdered body was carefully dismembered and hidden away in a home. After Jeffrey was killed in prison by another inmate in November 1994, Dahmer wrote an additional chapter on the death of his son.
Jeff’s condition was proven to have nothing to do with his upbringing – I don’t want parents frightened to death thinking that the little things they do or the little things they miss are going to result in them having a child that is going to cause all this pain and anguish…. As I have wanted this book for years, I assumed that once I finally owned a copy, that I would devour it (awful pun intended), in one sitting. Mentally ill mother, no job or income of her own) BUT, Lionel had the job, money, and means to leave the marriage. He sees people, relationships, and the world in terms of their ability to meet his needs, whatever those needs might be. I think a lot of people could get something out of this book, particularly parents or those hoping to become parents.A side to the story we rarely get to hear when the infamy of someone's crimes overshadows who they were and the people that loved them. The most important thing to me that just makes me want to say after reading this is: Thank you Dad for being with me all these years, and all the unconditional love that I've always had. He can speculate; he can point a finger at this situation or that situation; he can look inward and berate himself for all his failings as a parent. The family's struggle to reconcile the son and brother they knew with the monstrous actions he committed is movingly depicted.